Relationship-TIPS......FRESH from The University-of-Hard-Knocks !

I tell it like it is...
 I tell it like I see it....
I tell it like I envision it....
 I tell it like I would have liked, -to have Lived it......
~ Successfully ~
...the previous time !  HJ

If Relationships are good, they can get better .......if it needs to be patched up, these tips 'might be of help..... or at least, -help get you on track....These tips are channeled towards making relationships better and rescuing  the NOT-yet 'failed ' Families & Relationships... 

Based on True Life Experience from the scourging heat of the still Melting-Pots of  'The University of Hard Knocks & Failure........'

Our relationships & marriages are failing on a daily basis. 

We're handed a 'not yet tested Marriage Certificate' (of what! really ?), before the journey begins with little or no knowledge about what marriages entail and 'how to' make our relationships work. 

This list is .......never-ending, & will be updated as inspiration prevails.......... some please bookmark the webpage & come back from time to time, if you so desire.

 # The List Following are Intended for.... ALL,

......... but mostly for../& from... a MARRIED Spouse's Perspective:

* Small things ........DO matter in a relationship.

Even habits /quirks that you think, are NOT worth talking about, can come up sooner or later....

i.e. Shower routine; toilet seat up/down preference..etc

You are living with some-one now......... try NOT TO irritate your spouse.

* Make an EFFORT to make your spouse comfortable.

Even if that means to forgo some 'previous habits'........smoking, not taking a bath etc.

Be sensitive to what your spouse requires, so you can make little tweaks in your 'mutual ' habits.

* Being married does NOT mean you're with your spouse 24/7.

It is healthy to have 'ad hoc' your own alone/special time.

You are an Individual & must explore your own 'Special Needs'

You will NEVER lose yoour 'own personality' / individuality, just because you've got  'hitched' 

* During Arguments / Disagreements....
Don't use your spouse's 'annoying habits' to get back at them.
Stick to the Issue !
Cheap Shots like that will NOT resolve any issue.
It will rather undo,  -much 'good.'
If you have a problem with something your spouse does, please talk about it a different time.


* A Hobby ....
Don't let it go even if you're married, (unless of  course, it entails something that can ruin your marriage)
Your Hobby is your own personal leisure so don't take it away from your schedule.... BUT
DO Balance it with time for /with your spouse !


* Honesty...
The Foundation of ANY sustainable relationship !
Lies..... (White lies or lies of ANY colour they may be) are STILL lies...
ALWAYS come clean so that your marriage, ( that is based on 100% TRUST !), will REMAIN rock solid without any cracks of 'doubt'
To consider the 'outcome'of any action 1st BEFORE doing it.


* The Past...
Never be ashamed of the 'scars' that life has left you with.....

If the 'relationship' can't be restored / rectified, move on.......

A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed, you endured the pain and God is busy with the process of healing  you....


* Being a 'Best Friend'...       InComplete / To be Continued
(......#27 )


Shalom