Jesus Christ died on the Cross........ for us (2000+ years ago)
....it was not in vain.
He died, so that through/because of His' Death we might Live, based on our Faith in Him.
...being Alive, Spiritually & consequently emotionally.
Not that long ago....
Somebody's Grandmother died.
The Grandfather subsequently also died; 20 minutes after the viewing of the body at the funeral home.
They were both buried at the same funeral; in the same grave; on top of one another.
...They had been married for more than 50 years.
Physically, he was a strong man, yet he died of a 'broken heart'' -emotionally then physically.
Both occurrences, -involved Death; had 'unconditional Love' as foundation of the commitment:
.....Death of Jesus Christ; he died ( on a Human level), because he loved each of us, unconditionally; so that we can Live (Spiritually) because of Him ( as God 3-in-1, Almighty) conquered 'Death' when he had risen 3 days thereafter....
.....Death of the Grandfather; he died because he loved, unconditionally; because he couldn't bear to live without her (physically) .....anymore.
That's real marriage.
That's real love.
It's stuff that most will only read about in romance novels.
Few live it, few feel it, fewer still would die for it.
Few people realize that to truly achieve a love like that, you do have to die.
You have to die to "Self : I, me & myself"
The grandfather simply couldn't make it less than one week without his love.
My Parents....... also died only 3 months apart; they would have been in their nineties, this year.The events had the appearance of tragedy, yet I introspectively 'saw' & experience something much greater ( out of a 'fallible' subjective Human perspective):
If I would ever been again granted the opportunity..... to marry again 'Someone', - as indicated by God', I would have the urge/craving in my (human) emotional heart of being similarly 'bonded' to such a person..... :
"If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a (100) hundred minus one day, so that I never have to ......Live without you !"
Yes, I almost died, emotionally, -prematurely because of the 'loss of my former wife & children', -if it weren't for the Spiritual hand of 'Mercy & Grace' of Jesus Christ's & in daily Guidance & support that enabled a 'miraculous' emotional & physical survival, -to date...I would have died also physically.
Victor Frankl, did prove in 'Man Search for Meaning' if a cause (reason) for existence vanished from the individuals' Belief system, such people die..........
Only because of unwaivering Hope & Faith due to Jesus Christ's (physical) Resurrection.... but also (spiritually) in my Life, [ that has 'risen (changed/improved) me' (Emotionally & sustained me to 'daily' survival, Physically)], I am still Alive & well!
There are só much that are NOT been said, about the effect of behavior, (-of those who died) & possible events, preceding the above..... , affecting the people, remaining ......
If I would prematurely die, or be taken away by Rapture; (I Believe very soon!); I would like (those few that might have met &/or remembered me,) to have had experienced the following, beforehand, -coming from me......:
* If God (for a 'second') forgot what I had become (back then) & granted me a 'little more of Life on Earth', I would use it to the best of my ability....
* I wouldn't possibly 'blabber & just rambling on', -saying everything that is in my mind -but I would be more 'thoughtful' of the affects of all I say to those I would have said it to....
* I would give merit to 'things' not for what they are worth, -but for what they mean to express...
* I would definitely sleep less; dream more 'in tandem with my loved one', -because I know every minute I close my eyes I'll waste 60 seconds; I would walk-on when others stop ...; be awake while others sleep away a third of their life's
* I would dress in a simple manner; place myself more in front of the 'Son/Sun', leaving my body, -but more my Soul 'naked' & unpretentious at His' /its mercy.......
* To my children I would give all the possible 'wings' within my resources, but would leave it móre to them to learn, -how to fly by themselves, (based on the 'values & morals', that's part of their wings.)
* I would be more 'gentle' on the frailty of people around me, knowing that task orientation is subordinate to relationship building; no medals for coming 1st are waiting; ".....die werk hy kom nooit nie klaar...; maar mense raak klaar; familie-verhoudings is teer, breekbaar & onsettend omonkeerbaar kosbaar"
* I'll be more transparent, in everything & anything I do........
* With 'old people', -I'll spent more time with; there's so much for me still to learn; without re-doing the mistakes of others, that have traveled the 'path' before me.......
* Though everybody wants to live in some or other way on top of the mountain, but 'true' happiness is 'only' obtained in the 'mutual (uphill) journey' taken & the enjoyment of the 'setbacks' encountered in 'mutually struggling' to reach the top of the hill (amidst adversity).
* I have learned that any man has only the right & obligation to look down at another man, when that man that is 'down & out', sincerely needs help to get up from his unfortunate situation.
In NO other instance it is justified to look down from your "so often Afrikaner haughty snobishness", because it is only "Grace"that you are nót there.... & that too can happen (to YOU!) 'overnight' in an instant !
* In future I would say more what I feel (experience at that point in time) & less what I think.
* I would say : "I love YOU.. !, with more passion (in the manner (music) of how I communicate it), rather than " the what" (contents) of what I try to communicate .......
* Tomorrow is never guaranteed to anyone, -young or old.
Today could be the last time to see your loved ones, which is why I mustn't wait; do it today, in case tomorrow never arrives.....
* Before I retire for the night..... ensure that it would be 'OK', in the event I would die that same night......
* I would like to tell my loved ones in their ears & in their faces...... how much I love them & therefore how much I consequently need them & extremely important they are to me.
I'll Love them more in a 1000 little ways; treat them more exceptionally well as unique individuals; take more time ( & be less hastened), to tell them "I'm Sorry.. Please Forgive me" & really mean that & alter my future behavior ........... permanently (with God's Help)!
* I'll express my needs ( in wisdom & guidance & strength from God) more verbally & explicitly; no-one knows another's 'secret thoughts'
* I'll do more 'really important' things (of eternal significance) .......today; because if I don't do it today...tomorrow will be like yesterday, & if I never do it, nothing could be different, -because it wasn't done ..Now!
I'll miss you.........all
Shalom
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