It is found that........ while it may NOT be most desirable for many, we can live 'with limitations & restrictions' without romantic relationships, if be prefer.......
....But, we CANNOT live healthy lives without healthy relationships/connections.
We need to be connected-in-spirit & Spirit, to at least one loving and accepting trusted soul-mate, (without which we only limp along in the shadows of life.)
This applies to married adults as much as it does to single adults.
If, in marriage, you are not both truly connected to your spouse in an in-depth way, you can live together alone apart, & the relationship would die a little, every day........
I know.
I was there, experiencing that a two-way street is just functional if BOTH parties are 100%-committed, else it remains a one-way path to relationship-failure, no matter ho hard you might try.....
I had to learn, the hard way.....
How do we become connected in spirit?
We do this by walking in the light, which means bringing our "dark side" into the open and being honest with at least one 100% TRUSTED-friend-soul-mate.
Only then do we have true fellowship and connection—with God and others.
Only then do we open ourselves for "purification from every sin."
As we confess our failures, sins, weaknesses, and our true emotions and motives, in total Trust, to one safe soul-mate — where we are NOT judged, condemned, or put down, but loved and accepted as we are; thereby little by little learn to love and accept ourselves....again!
This in turn heals us from the 'pain' of the past that caused severe loneliness, emptiness, and self-rejection—one of the major causes of adding to our acting out in sinful, addictive, and/or self-destructive behaviors...
The point to remember is that, -when we are acting out in self-destructive ways, we are disconnected.
To overcome and live victoriously we need to stay connected— secondary, to our inner-self, to our dark side, to a 'safe' person, &.......primarily, to God; our ONLY true Security & unchanging Foundation, upon which 'everything' need to be build, to experience long-term success, here & now, but also Eternally......
None of us can make it alone......
God never meant us to.
All the psychological/spiritual exercises in the world, no matter how good, will not help us to live victoriously without these connections !
It is imperative that we stay connected in wholesome, healthy relationships Vertically as well as horizontally!
Without personal, courageous honesty there is no connection, there is no recovery, there is no healing, there is no walking in the light—and there is no intimacy either with God or people. Anything less is but a poor shadow of the real....
A 'panacea' that only act on the outside as a 'band-aid' but of little lasting, long-term impact on our 'searching incompleteness a fragile human-being'......
I ask God to help me to be, the trusted soul mate, with whom others can be totally open and honest.
To stay connected to my inner-self, my dark side, to special-loved ones, and, above all, to Jesus Christ in Listening & obeying the Holy Spirit.....
I'm Grateful that I'm heard and being answered, -in His' Time,........to His Glory
Shalom
I know.
I was there, experiencing that a two-way street is just functional if BOTH parties are 100%-committed, else it remains a one-way path to relationship-failure, no matter ho hard you might try.....
I had to learn, the hard way.....
How do we become connected in spirit?
We do this by walking in the light, which means bringing our "dark side" into the open and being honest with at least one 100% TRUSTED-friend-soul-mate.
Only then do we have true fellowship and connection—with God and others.
Only then do we open ourselves for "purification from every sin."
As we confess our failures, sins, weaknesses, and our true emotions and motives, in total Trust, to one safe soul-mate — where we are NOT judged, condemned, or put down, but loved and accepted as we are; thereby little by little learn to love and accept ourselves....again!
This in turn heals us from the 'pain' of the past that caused severe loneliness, emptiness, and self-rejection—one of the major causes of adding to our acting out in sinful, addictive, and/or self-destructive behaviors...
The point to remember is that, -when we are acting out in self-destructive ways, we are disconnected.
To overcome and live victoriously we need to stay connected— secondary, to our inner-self, to our dark side, to a 'safe' person, &.......primarily, to God; our ONLY true Security & unchanging Foundation, upon which 'everything' need to be build, to experience long-term success, here & now, but also Eternally......
None of us can make it alone......
God never meant us to.
All the psychological/spiritual exercises in the world, no matter how good, will not help us to live victoriously without these connections !
It is imperative that we stay connected in wholesome, healthy relationships Vertically as well as horizontally!
Without personal, courageous honesty there is no connection, there is no recovery, there is no healing, there is no walking in the light—and there is no intimacy either with God or people. Anything less is but a poor shadow of the real....
A 'panacea' that only act on the outside as a 'band-aid' but of little lasting, long-term impact on our 'searching incompleteness a fragile human-being'......
I ask God to help me to be, the trusted soul mate, with whom others can be totally open and honest.
To stay connected to my inner-self, my dark side, to special-loved ones, and, above all, to Jesus Christ in Listening & obeying the Holy Spirit.....
I'm Grateful that I'm heard and being answered, -in His' Time,........to His Glory
Shalom
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